Achievement ≠ happiness

For some people, achievement leaves them feeling empty to the core. I used to be one of those people it can make me depressed, anxious, even angry. I'm not always sure why and I may not even realize my unhappiness is related to my achievements in the first place. However, after several occasion, I began to pay attention to what triggered my emotional response.

The “arrival fallacy” refers to that empty feeling you might feel after reaching a huge goal.

After doing some research, I discovered that this problem typically begins in adolescence, with parents unintentionally teaching their children that their worth as a person is ultimately decided by thier achievements and what they do, rather than who they are. The unintended effect of this message is, of course, that who they are is insufficient. When those children become teenagers and adults, they are exposed to a social media-infused, celebrity-obsessed culture that subtly sends the same message: if you don't get enough "likes" on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram for the remarkable things you do or say, you're obviously not likeable/worthy enough.

The issue is that success does not always equal happiness, at least not in the long run. However, this is not a message that the majority of us are familiar with. 

I'm not a professional, therefore I can't tell you what you need to do to get out of this rabbit hole of emotional response and triggers so......

Here is an interesting piece by The New York Times